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  1. I must travel to Norway while I still have time – I’m 83 years old and was raised by my wonderful Norwegian grandmother , who blessed me with red hair (which I hated when little). She also taught me how to make Krumkakke and Lefsa. I love this web site. Mange Tak

  2. I’ve travelled to Norway for 20 years and have Norwegian friends and have now moved here. My position on ‘the Norwegians’ is nuanced. As a society and as a social system, theirs has a lot going for it. I opened a bank account for a deposit over the phone as everyone has a digital ID linked to their bank account. The convenience of this system is amazing. It’s obviously a beautiful country nature wise as well. My down sides are that Norwegians over-play the ‘superiority’ of their own culture and for some see it has having solved issues outright. I was surprised then, working in the social sector, to see poverty still exists – although it centres more around social opportunity and socialisation problems. This is compounded by the way in which the sovereignty of individual choice is privileged in the culture. If you are well-off and have a stable family life, you are going to make good/beneficial choices, but if you don’t, those social differences can get amplified and locked-in. The heroin addicts on the streets of Oslo are the price paid for this autonomy. Comfort is also a big thing in the culture, so people often choose what they are familiar with. At times, it means they can be unadventurous or as one Youtuber put it about food choices – “if I didn’t eat it in barnehage, I’m not eating it now”. The annoyances you speak of that Norwegians tolerate also apply to behaviour. There are good sides as this allows young people to act like idiots without embarrassment or shame, but at the same time I think the Janteloven ‘conformity’ side of the culture actually acts via this individual autonomy. The upshot is a dive to the common denominator or the dominant group ‘view’ who have the loudest and perhaps most aggressive voice. Other voices get drowned out and exclusion and bullying are all too common, often resulting in the bullied moving school. That toleration also applies to how destructive some of these kids can be and the government spends thousands on stuff they just break. They seem very tolerant of this, but in the countryside this can result in a ‘bygd kultur’, with kids uninterested in the learning, disrespecting teachers and causing suicides in some of their really desperate peers. Those paid to remedy this are effectively powerless. Another strand to this is how friendship groups are often based (especially outside the cities) on who you went to kindergarten with. I mentioned this to a colleague and yep, he admitted he prioritised his play-school chums over people he met at university. As liberal as Norwegians can be, it implies a certain conservatism on their part and a preference for the familiar. I think the racism that exists is explained in-part by this preference. This is the case at work and even getting a rental. Everything is harder. Ultimately, I learned that my own ‘culture’ is more collective than Norway’s – that’s a conclusion that surprises me as I thought my culture privileged the individual and thought collectiveness was a Scandi thing. Even with Dugnad and voluntary work’, I really don’t think that’s the case. Familiarity also means family. You aren’t going to make friends via meeting strangers as you might in a large city. Making allowances in your behaviour for others is an urban virtue and with a tiny population and sparse towns, the Norwegians don’t need it. Unfortunately, urban life can seem a bit dull as a result. On the other hand, as you say, Norwegians like to travel (which goes against the comfort/familiarity thing) and many ‘international’ Norwegians can be very different, especially when abroad. I guess there’s a pleasure of going on tur and of coming back. In the end, no culture fully makes sense and neither are they perfect. Norway is no exception.

  3. Having lived overseas as well, reading this I did not find the things u said about Germans true at all. Quite the opposite! Reading some of the Norwegian qualities u wrote about certainly reminded me exactly about my experiences with the German culture! I have to say I was in the southern part of Germany!

  4. I am dating a man from Oslo. What a patient person…he always calls me “a hand full”. He has more of a middle eastern accent and works himself to death….maybe in the States too long.