6 cities I didn't fall in love with during my travels

6 Cities I Did Not Connect With or Love On My Travels

I have visited thousands, and I mean thousands, of cities throughout my lifetime. I would say that more often than not, I enjoy every trip I take and am usually satisfied with or surprised at the cities I have visited. Very rarely have I encountered a city I just simply didn’t connect with. Frequently, these incidents are not caused by the city itself, but rather other circumstances. Travel isn’t always perfect and a person simply can’t fall in love with every place that they visit, now can they? This post is about those cities. These are the cities that I didn’t fall in love with or connect with throughout my travels and what I would love to do there to change things if I am ever fortunate enough to return to them.

San Jose, Costa Rica

Oh, San Jose. I have been to San Jose, Costa Rica a few times and I just never connected with the city. I can’t pinpoint what the problem was, so I will just chalk it up to being me. I guess sometimes in a land as natural and stunning as Costa Rica, you are so excited about everything else around you that you don’t necessarily want to be stuck inside of a city.

I lived in Norway for four years, as many of you know. When I first visited Oslo during my stint there, I loathed the city. It wasn’t as awe-inspiring as the fjords in the west of the country and there was just something about it that I didn’t fully connect with. And then……. I moved there. The day that I arrived, I fell in love. I have concluded that some cities aren’t great to visit, but instead to live in. Oslo is one of them and I assume that San Jose is quite similar.

With that being said, I would love to return to San Jose and spend a longer period of time there by living there for a month or so. During that time, I’d love to study at a local Spanish school and hone in on my diminishing high-school Spanish skills. I previously stayed in the San Pedro area of San Jose and enjoyed the area for its good food and nightlife, so I’d love to find a flat there and just enjoy being in Costa Rica for a while. Being in San Jose for a longer period of time will fulfill my love for urban life as well as my love for being able to escape it easily!

soda in san jose, costa rica

Astana, Kazakhstan

Yep, you guys know the story. I am not even going to rehash it here. But I didn’t like Astana, Kazakhstan at all when I visited. Granted, it was back in 2013 and things have changed quite a bit since this year’s Expo. I hung out with locals, I went to various parts of the city, and I ate regional foods. I just couldn’t get down with the people (not the people I was with, of course) and vibe of the city and I really didn’t enjoy my time there. Fortunately, many people that I know traveling there recently have thought it was okay. This gives me hope!

I always said I wouldn’t return to Astana, but the older I get and having lived in Kazakhstan since for a few months (Almaty), I would return there if given the chance. I have a friend living there who is from Aktobe whom I met in Almaty and I’d love to visit her and have her show me around. I have heard that Astana is becoming rather tech-savvy and it seems as though co-working spaces and cool cafes are starting to pop up. I’d love to explore this and hopefully, it would change my image and impression of the city to something a bit more positive.

Klaipeda, Lithuania

My disdain for Klaipeda has nothing to do with Klaipeda really. It has to do with a freak incident that happened whilst there and it is weird. So, I visited Klaipeda back in 2011 right after my birthday at the end of July. It was scheduled to be a super long day-trip from Vilnius and I was so stoked on seeing the Curonian Spit and beaches that the area had to offer.

Upon arriving in Klaipeda, I realized that there was a severe wasp problem. They were everywhere. They were trying to fly in my mouth and I was having a panic attack as a result. There were millions of them. I took the ferry over to the Curonian Spit and they were teeming with them too. After four hours and being in tears because they were all over my body, I left Klaipeda to go back to Vilnius. Before leaving, I went into a public restroom and someone started speaking to me in English after realizing that I must have been a tourist. She told me that she has never seen something like this and it was the strangest thing she had ever seen as a local. It made me feel better that it was an unexplainable phenomenon that was confusing everyone!

I’d love to go back to Klaipeda (and use this awesome Klaipeda travel guide!). Anytime suits me as long as those wasps don’t ever return to the city!

dead wasps in klaipeda, lithuania

<dead wasps on the ferry ride>

me in klaipeda, lithuania

<trying to enjoy the place but I really wanted to cry inside>

Odessa, Ukraine

I arrived at Odessa in a sour mood. My travel partner and I took the overnight train in first-class to Odessa from Dnipropetrovsk and we had a beer on the train that kind of made me a bit loopy. Either way, I tried sleeping and it didn’t work despite me usually sleeping well on Soviet trains. Once we arrived in Odessa, we decided to not stay the night, but rather to get a late train to Chisinau, Moldova, our next destination. It was morning in Odessa and we went to secure tickets and they were sold out. After a lot of hassle, we secured bus tickets for late in the afternoon, a bit sooner than we had hoped to leave as we wanted to see the city a bit.

After getting our tickets reserved and paid for, we walked around Odessa for a few hours. We went down to the Black Sea, we perused around the touristy parts, and we strolled around some non-touristy areas. I just never felt the vibe I had hoped for in Odessa. Was it possible that there is a Ukrainian city that I didn’t absolutely love!? Maybe Odessa was it. We both kind of felt ‘meh’ about the city and ended up sitting in McDonald’s at the train station to use wi-fi to figure out if our bus was actually going to go through Transnistria or not as the bus station seemed to be unclear about things. Eventually, we went and picked up our luggage from the storage area and headed to the train station, more than ready to leave Odessa.

I don’t know if I didn’t like Odessa because of my mood that day or simply because it wasn’t my type of city. I hear that there are some super hip cafes there that I’d love to check out sometime, so I am more than willing to go back and have a change of heart about the city.

odessa, ukraine on the black sea

Paris, France

It sounds horrible. I want to love Paris. I want to love everything about Paris. But after about six or seven visits to the ‘City of Lights’, I just don’t. The city doesn’t inspire me, I don’t love French food (I respect it though, let me put that out there), and I just don’t have a personality that perhaps meshes well with the city. With that said, I do desperately want to go back in 2018 with my travel partner (he has never been!) and see another side to the city. Paris is supposed to have some killer international restaurants, a burgeoning craft beer scene, and creative spaces are taking over. While this isn’t everyone’s cup of tea and while people usually don’t travel to Paris for these things, it will likely be the reason that I eventually fall in love with the city, if I ever do.

Guayaquil, Ecuador

I don’t really know how I ended up in Guayaquil. Like, I actually can’t think of what would have possessed me to book a ticket there because there was absolutely no reason to be in Ecuador at all. I was spending a month traveling around Colombia and wanted to just fly somewhere different for a few days. Rather than just staying in Colombia (which is what I should have done), I decided to go to Guayaquil instead of Quito, my other option. I think I wanted decent temperatures and Quito was cold at the time.

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I had three days in Guayaquil and was staying at RE Hostel, which is seriously one of the nicest hostels I’ve ever stayed at. However, their instructions on how to get to the hostel on the website included the sentence “ Make sure you take a marked taxi as other taxis are known for kidnappings”. Yea, not the first thing you want to have to deal with when stepping outside of an airport in a country you’ve never been to before. I found a cab, arrived safely even though some things were sketchy, and I never really connected with the city at all during my stay. Apparently, I was not alone as many other female travelers sat in the hostel with me and weren’t too keen on venturing out, either. I never fully felt safe there and I really didn’t have a clue about what to do.

I’d love to go back to Guayaquil despite that first impression of the city. I know many people pass through on their way to the Galapagos, so I perhaps had a different experience in the place. The people were friendly there and I think the city deserves a second chance.

You can’t love everywhere. I really wish I didn’t have negative experiences in any place, but when you have been traveling for most of your life and have seen quite a few places, you’re bound to have some negative impressions and experiences in places. I am a big fan of second chances and I really hope that I can give each of these cities a second chance in 2018 or beyond!

What city have you traveled to that you didn’t connect with? Would you ever revisit it?


You can't love everywhere you visit. This post talks about 6 cities that I didn't love or connect with on my travels and why I hope to revisit each someday. Click to see which cities made the list!


You can't love everywhere you visit. This post talks about 6 cities that I didn't love or connect with on my travels and why I hope to revisit each someday.  Click to see which cities made the list!
  • Ashley
    Posted at 14:47h, 22 November Reply

    Great post, Megan! After reading Adventurous Kate’s post about Odessa I wanted to visit, but it’s interesting to hear another take on it. And I felt the same way about Paris at first; I only fell in love with it after living there for a while.

  • LC
    Posted at 22:24h, 22 November Reply

    It would be boring to like everywhere you visit! I wasn’t much a fan of San Jose either… it’s okay, but yeah when everywhere else in CR is so jaw-dropping beautiful, a city can seem a bit blergh in comparison. I feel the same way about Paris too, mostly due to a few bad experiences from visiting. My others would be Brisbane in Australia (although it’s been 11 years since I’ve been there and hopefully it’s changed some since then) and Chicago, which I really wanted to like but just… didn’t. Food poisoning from deep dish pizza didn’t much help.

  • Jordan
    Posted at 12:38h, 23 November Reply

    I’m totally with you on Paris – I really want to love it but I just can’t. Peter and I are thinking of going there in 2018 and giving it another shot :)

  • Frank
    Posted at 21:13h, 27 November Reply

    Oh, you’ve picked a great topic! This is the kind of post that gets people going.
    Of course travelling is personal, We all have personal experiences and they affect how we end up feeling about a place.
    Places I really, really disliked: Rio and Lisbon. Makes me question if there’s something about anything Portuguese that rubs me the wrong way. Rio is beautiful but it was all about the people for us. Lisbon is also beautiful but we stayed 4 weeks and it was the absolute worse slow travel base we’ve had in 3+ years of full-time travel. As a tourist there for a few days it would be fine. But 4 weeks there REALLY soured me to the place.
    Apart from that there are cities that have left us feeling blah (Vienna for example). Absolute armpit was Medan in Sumatra, that’s a place I’d never want to set foot in again. Bangkok always fun for a visit but we spent 3 weeks back in 2014 and it was too much. Depends on how long you stay somewhere – the longer you stay the greater the chance of extreme feelings one way or another.
    Really there are no other places that really stand out to me as places I didn’t like (you used the word “love” which in my mind sets a pretty high standard).

  • Sam
    Posted at 14:20h, 28 November Reply

    Love this post! Too often I think people are afraid to speak their mind on the places they didn’t connect with. For me, it was Florence, Italy. We spent 10 days there in a local area and tried to scope out the non-touristy spots but they just didn’t exist. It was so bewildering as so many people speak so highly about Florence but it seems like people go for a few days just to see the main sights. The historic center was beautiful, for sure, but outside of that, the city was just rundown and kind of sad. It was clear that the priority was on tourists rather than actual residents, and the people we were house-sitting for didn’t even seem to like living there.

    Btw, I totally understand your sentiment about Paris. I’ve been a few times now and while it’s beautiful (the cemeteries are incredible), it’s also not really my vibe. Not into the food either, but that’s because it’s mostly butter or cheese laden so not super vegan friendly. I’ve heard things have changed recently in that department so I’d also like to give the city another chance as well, plus my travel partner hasn’t been there either and I feel like it’s definitely one of those places everyone should check out at least once, since it does get so much hype!

  • Sarah
    Posted at 12:20h, 29 November Reply

    Thanks for this great post, Megan! I think it’s far too easy for people to fall prey to the nostalgia effect and start thinking that places were a better experience than they actually were.. I think it’s also sometimes a desire to make it sound as if every place they’ve been is absolutely amazing, just to glamorize their travels. I think it’s important to provide honest feedback and appreciate that you’ve shared some insights into why you didn’t have the greatest time in these particular places – while acknowledging that a variety of circumstances can come into play. One of the cities on my own list would definitely be Dubrovnik, but I was there during the height of the tourist season and realize I could have had a completely different reaction to the place if I’d been there at another time of the year.

  • Ashley
    Posted at 02:15h, 01 December Reply

    I always love reading about the cities people don’t connect with for whatever reason! I agree with you on San Jose – I felt the same way. Paris is a city I thought I wouldn’t like, but I ended up loving. A few others I didn’t connect with were Florence, Barcelona, and Phnom Penh. Not sure I’d want to revisit any of them, but who knows!

    • Megan Starr
      Posted at 18:19h, 05 December

      I am the same. I love hearing about the good and BAD side of travel- not just one or another. I will need some of your Paris tips next time I go!

  • Dorothea Sharma
    Posted at 10:31h, 27 February Reply

    So far, I didn’t have a problem with cities, where something bad happened. Like I had money stolen from me in Antalya and also in Mumbai, and I was down for a while – but this never soured my feelings for a city, thankfully :) I have problems with cities, when I have the feeling, I have seen it all, and now I’m bored. Happened to me in Warsaw and also in Salem, NH – sometimes even this extended weekend is simply a day too long.

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